Cancer leaves you with a lot of questions that will unfortunately go unanswered. I've noticed the biggest game-changer is accepting that those questions become considerations, and eventually confirmations. "How did this happen?" transforms to, "This is happening and I really don't know why." Suddenly it's more sensible because things happen and most of us can't figure out why, and I think that's a commonality we can rely on. Life is weird. So after you allow yourself to cry until you don't recognize yourself in the mirror, drink too much wine, and laugh too loudly at jokes that aren't funny... You have officially entered the stages of grieving a diagnosis.